Set yourself up to feel confident. Avoid new clothes that you are not used to wearing. Don’t wear a suit either. Or a tie for that matter. A (nice) pair of jeans, a pair of cords in the winter or chinos in summer. A shirt is always a good idea but if you feel better in a T-shirt, why not? Pick a good jumper, or jacket to keep your armpits out of sight. The traitors. And don’t forget to smile.
It’s night. Time to mix, sip and have a good time. And dance. Dancing requires comfort. Dress with panache, but don’t let it become the talking point.
Wear a pair of dark trousers to offset that colourful jacket you love so much and wear so well. A pair of suede calk-skin shoes or perhaps those brilliant white tennis shoes? Finally, open a second shirt button and you’re good to go.
To go up in the world, waltz with royalty for example, you must first closely examine the invitation.
Does it say “black tie”? Wear a tuxedo. Black or midnight blue, satin-faced shawl lapel, white bibbed shirt, bowtie, satin trimmed trousers, silk socks and patent shoes. There’s no room to improvise.
If it’s written “white tie”, you’re going to have to go further still. Coat tails, a white bowtie, a top hat even. The only question you should ask yourself is what you’re doing in such a place.